1. Many subs approach Dommes  the same way they approach items found on ebay. They want a particular type of Domme with particular type of equipment to do particular type of activities on particular days at particular times for the particular experience of the submissive.

2. Many submissives aren't interested in Dommes as people, they are only interested in them as Dommes, there to engage in a scene involving specific activities for the subs enjoyment. These submissives don't have a need or time for such basic things like respect, manners, friendship, conversation, companionship, etc - they just want to get their rocks off and leave.

3. Some submissives have a mental block when it comes to understanding the basic 'give-take' principle of BDSM or D/s.

4. Many Dommes get tired of being a freebie domination service for these types of submissives and some are also tired of not getting anything out of scenes with submissives.

5. Submissives rarely offer their own place for meetings and not often come up with the equipment, but expect the Dommes to not only have all the necessary equipment but also wear the appropriate clothes. This equipment costs money. Why should the Domme have to pay for all the equipment?

6. Some Dommes figure, and quite rightly in my opinion, that if they're going to not get anything out of the meeting or relationship and they're going to be treated like a Pro-Domme then they might as well charge a fee or demand a tribute.

Does this make it any clearer?

For a submissive the way into BDSM is very simple - you either have something to offer (other than submission) which a Domme genuinely needs or you pay. Either way you give.

 

source:colarme

 

Now think of all these answers while you are emailing me 20 pages of nonsense with a picture of your penis attached. And PLEASE do not wonder why you got no reply! Long story short is that 98% of you offer nothing....not a goddamned thing to a relationship & THAT is why you need to pay for a companion/escort/Dominatrix/etc. Not because she is a money hungry b!tch or anything like that. It is a PAIN to deal with rejects 24 hours a day who think that they are somehow better than a paying submissive/client/john/etc. You are not better & if anythng you are worse because you will never try to improve yourself. Read a book, lose 160 lbs, take a shower everyday (with deoderant), brush you teeth after every meal, shave your back, etc etc etc. I could go on for days about this subject but I have more productive things to do with my time.